This is not a Game of thrones appreciation post –although power to GOT- neither is it a fashion haul preparing you for the cool season of the West because Common sense🙄.
For my readers across the Atlantic
Let’s see, i live close to the equator, literally and therefore have no business telling you what to do when it begins to snow. It does not snow here, by here i mean Nigeria but you knew that already so yeah, let us come together.
Hello beautiful people-excluding Pro-Trump
This is perhaps the most expectant season of the year for everyone -except you are a risk taker who decides to ditch birth control.
For me, the idea of cool breeze, festivities and spending more time in my boyfriend’s City of Angels’ sweat shirt whilst arguing about his room mate’s status as a Republican sounds really amazing and a whole lot better than counting my woes and losses for the failed part of the year.
Ps. My boyfriend is a Genius.
In previous years, this would usually be the time to go to Ikota shopping complex and buy a Journal worth a bucket of KFC with an attempt to create a new life once again. This was the period where i would constantly jump into another host and have an intense need to start afresh. It most certainly looked like i was running from myself and then back to myself.
All that turn turn na stress
Now, 2016 isn’t/wasn’t so much of a big year uno, i did not loose all the weight and there was no dramatic turn around in my grades. But i’m truly relaxed and living in the moment. Why? because i cannot kill my damn self. Seriouly though, we can only do the best we can when it comes to having achievement and maybe do some more but this talk is for another day.
I will not digress! I will not digress!
Taking off all the garbage is a good way to live in this season. Operation No stress. You have done well and should give yourself a round of applause for a job well done especially when you haven’t achieved so much. Sometimes we feel the need to finish everything on our to do list but we just can’t and if we do, it most certainly would be out of bare struggle.
Making plans, setting up goals & deadlines and all the other stuff are good and perhaps serve as an addition to validate your status but the joie de vivre is knowing when and how to count your blessings no matter how small. Garbages are things i like to call extra and honey, you do not need extra.
However, before the era of Resolutions begin i wish to let you in on two paramount things that could serve you during this period as well aiding your journey in the new year.
Although stattistics show that students who take Revision way more seriously than taking Practice exams are likely to fail, it is however more dangerous to begin a begin a new journey without re-assessing the old.
Human emotions are fickle, like the wind it has no destination but we get to control that. But before we reach the place of control we must have properly understood the highs and lows of it.
Are you grateful for 2016 or are you just waiting to begin another year and pretend like nothing happened? Although answers may vary, we can unite on either of the two- grateful or trash. If you are totally grateful for all your achievements and goals and the escape of many flaws, good for you.
Apparently this post is not for you but you can sit with us still.
You on the other hand with the should haves, if i had known’s’, maybes most certainly have my attention.
Now, like i said earlier this year wasn’t all that great like Viola Davis winning the emmys’ great. I got played twice, had my heart broken , suffered financially, lost my best friend, lost my aunt to cancer, had accomodation problems, got betrayed by the devil, had my first crisis, Loved but was never loved back, had a death scare….. I could go on and on but hey, i’m still here and so are you despite all of your misfortunes.
Reassessing my life from whenever to this present moment has not only aided my growth but has helped in slowly building a stable nature for myself. The ability to sit and recap gives you the opportunity to travel back in time to yourself. While reassessing, there will be moments you certainly won’t be proud of, moments you totally want to cut off from your life’s resume, moments of regrets. And because we can get easily overwhelmed by this, we find ourselves running and following the band wagon of New year, New me.
Mistakes are paramount necessities of life. Although many people frown at the making of mistakes over and over again, you alone have the power to choose the pace by which you learn life’s lesson. Remember that comparism is the thief of joy, why? because it is. The time used to compare your life with that of some one else would probably be the time used to better yourself as an individuals
Regrets have a way of making us myopic to our good deeds. Again, we can be truly overwhelmed by our mistakes thereby making us regard a particular achievement as little or even nothing.
The purpose of Reassessment is to validate the point that we are flesh and blood and bones and tendons and lingaments and cells and practically a structure that has coalesced overtime. We are not automatic beings, we fall and rise-pros and cons of the cycle of life. The ability to place all of what life has given you equally on a pedestal shows that you are indeed a conqueror.
Your trials, your blessings, your short comings and goals, all put together add up to the amazing person that you are (me too). So while reassessing today, make peace with your past and count all of your blessings one by one.
The Art of letting go by Josh Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus was a TED talk that opened my eyes to the necessity of de cluttering and even de cluttering of the mind. Although their prime purpose was to spread the word on Minimalism- which involves the doing away with excess possessions, i got quite a different message alongside . While it is important to own less in a minimalist life stlye the application of the same virtue becomes vital when we make the decision to live a more peaceful and free life.
Letting go can mean various things -like falling off a cliff- but the Letting go important for peace and freedom is the dumping of any form of emotional bargage. Hurt like Death respects no man. No matter what you do or how you do it, it is most cerrain that you cannot run away from it. You cannot avoid death stares and bullets from the hearts of people, if you could, oh well but you can’t.
Knowing that you can rise above all the disappointments and bad issues that have come to you is more than a relief but sometimes it becomes much easier to hold on to these things for future reference thereby blocking every chance at happiness. We should understand that people do not use owe us approvals or supports and vice versa.
Do not place yourself in the chains of expectation and go on to cry Dear Oloni when things were made lucid from the start.
To let go is to put yourself first as always and take a fat chance at finding freedom. All that pain and anger will do you no good. Perhaps the most important person to forgive in the process of letting go should be yourself. Forgive yourself for your constant errors and flaws.
The constant stereotype that one should settle their debt before the year runs out should be put to rest. Making peace with the people whom you have offended or vice versa shouldn’t be an eventful thing but that of normalcy. So text who you have to and apologise not because you want the supernatural blessings of the new year but because you are a decent human being who values his/her peace over anything.
Till next time, be happy.
Happy holidays x